You may have heard the catchphrase “Stop the glorification of ‘busy.'” Well I think it’s wonderful. And it’s something I need to drill into my brain more. We’re so quick to blow off responsibilities and things we ought to do because we’re “busy.” “Busy” has come to control our lives, and we often don’t even realize it. I’ll be the first to say I’m guilty.
But I think there’s something else we glorify: chill.
We use it constantly. “Those people are chill.” “That place is chill.” “This song is chill.” And these sentences are perfectly good uses of the word’s modern definition. The word itself isn’t the problem. The problem is the implication that goes along with it, which is this:
Chill=good & Not Chill=bad.
“Chill” has gained such a positive connotation that anything unchill is now uncool. So we all strive to maintain this “chill” persona all the time (like this guy to the left). We let people know that nothing bothers us. We hang out in groups without engaging in real conversation (and we certainly don’t bring up controversial issues). We don’t speak up or leave whenever the people around us are participating in activities we don’t agree with. And we often don’t even question the righteousness of their actions, much less our own.
I just think we as people have gotten so into this “tolerance” thing and the importance of being “chill” all the time that we’ve lost sight of deciding what’s truly harmful or beneficial for ourselves and others.
I think we should be asking ourselves the “why” question more often, in every area of life. Why do you eat what you eat? Why do you wear the clothes you wear? Why do you hang out with the friends you have? Why do you go or not go to church? Why do you exercise or not exercise? Why are you pursuing a certain career? Why do you drink or not drink? Why are you dating the person you’re with, or why are you single? Have you ever stopped to ask yourself these questions and really dig down deep for the answers? (And “I don’t know” or “Because I want to” aren’t solid answers in my book).
I know this seems like over-analyzing, but I’d argue that not asking these questions is under-analyzing. Every single decision you make in life has a consequence, whether negative or positive. It’s the butterfly effect. Now that doesn’t mean you should live in a constant state of guilt or stress, but it means you should think deeply about the decisions you make, even the small ones, instead of just “going with the flow.” Because if we all go with the flow, we’ll just end up circling round and round in a lazy river.
So ask yourself the “why” questions, and really look at your motives. No matter what you decide on what issue, know why you are the person you are. And stand by the decisions you make.